Saturday, May 4, 2013

A High Bar for Husbands; Ephesians


May the mumbling commence!

What to do with the last day in Ephesians…  I think I will reflect on the passage about the relationship between husband and wife.  This passage strikes me because I am a married man… who loves his wife very much.  But, boy, the bar seems to be set much higher for the husbands than for the wives!  Read the passage from Ephesians chapter five (NIV):

Submit to one another out of reverence to Christ.
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.  Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.  In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.  He who loves his wife loves himself.  After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds it and cares for it, just as Christ does the church – for we are members of his body.  “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”  This is a profound mystery – but I am talking about Christ and the church.  However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Verses 21-33)

Now, let me get this straight.  The wife must submit her husband as the church submits to Christ.  Some women liberation ladies will be up in arms about this.  However, think about how the church really does (or does not) submit to the leading of Christ.  In the grand scheme of things, the bar for women is set low.  In many ways, the church fails in its call to submission.

Husbands, on the other hand, have a much higher hurdle to clear.  Our bar is set to Christ.  We are to love our wives as Christ loved the church.  That is perfect, agape love.  That is unconditional love – even when my wife may not follow my lead… even when my wife obviously has a leading that I would do good to follow.  Husbands have a much better chance if this was a limbo contest!

May the profound mystery of Christ and the church cover my weaknesses and sins as a husband who tries with all his might to love his wife unconditionally and perfectly!

Enough mumbling for now…

Peace Out 

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